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grumpy hedgehog: The thing about tumblrs like deartranspeople and dearnoncispeople, and the thing about the idea that cis people need a...
Cis people are the shrinks that get to decide whether or not a person is “really trans*”, who get to tell us the validity of our own identities.
Cis people are the surgeons that operate on trans* people if we want to have SRS.
Cis people are the ones who decide…
Source: theraptorwhomurderedlove
I am hairy like ferret.
You seem to think that just because I’m “young” that I haven’t thought this through, but I have to live every day thinking about how I’m misgendered and disrespected. I have to live every day knowing that when I look in a mirror I won’t like what I see. You seriously think I haven’t thought about it? When you’re stuck in a wrong body, call me and tell me how little you think about changing it. Until then, please shut up and let me do what I want with my own body.
Source: dearcispeople
“The MAN Who Wins Beauty Pageants”
Ryder and I are supposed to have a story about our transitions and our relationship in Reveal Magazine later this month. When we saw this cover of Reveal this morning we were outraged.
We emailed our point-of-contact for the magazine immediately and he called us to assure us our own article would not be sensationalized or sexualized. He did not ease our fears or outrage at all.
Ryder and I refuse to be martyr’s and victims so that this magazine can sell more issues. We are waiting to hear from the editor of the magazine next week so that we can decide if we will allow them to run our story or not.
How they handle the outrage and call for a retraction will determine if we allow them to use our story in their next issue.Ry and I will be looking to consult with Transgender Media Watch (@TransMediaWatch) on how to go forward in dealing with Reveal Magazine. They have already violated our trust and our story hasn’t even run yet.
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You can tweet your outrage here: @RevealMag
You can facebook them here: http://www.facebook.com/revealmagazine/
(via tal9000)
Source: noahnomad
It is interesting to dissect how certain mannerisms of mine are a direct result of intense bullying from my family, and, to a lesser extent, classmates. I’m naturally an introvert, but I think it has been twisted into something more pathological.
I always try to move as quietly as possible, and I have to consciously decide to take up more space. I am inclined to curl up, cross my limbs, shift around people, even sit on the floor, etc., rather than take up an inch more space than possible. Making noise genuinely makes me anxious. Why? Because I don’t want to draw attention to myself. I don’t want to be screamed at or harassed once people see me with the temerity to take up space.
Yet at the same time, being quiet and “dainty” is coded as feminine. I feel like I am obligated to spread myself out, and move in a very confident and dominant manner when out in public if I want to be read as a guy.
My voice is very monotonous. I used to be teased for being too excitable and “emotional”. I find myself often trying not to speak in public for fear of being fun of. Too high-pitched, too soft and feminine, whatever. I didn’t use to think of it in terms of gender. I was just avoiding being hassled and being made anxious by strangers or classmates.
The same with my clothes, wearing baggy pants or layers to hide curves that were ugly on me and attracted bullies and harassment. Something I wasn’t even conscious of in terms of gender, although I was desperate to wear “boy’s” clothes and not be seen as feminine.
Being feminine meant being a nerd, weak, someone who deserved violence. That’s what I experienced it as, as a kid and young adult. It meant being pretty for other people, glamorous, sexy, powerful…but for me, it might being ugly, weak, a freak. It was connected with being bullied and treated as out of place.
At the same time, I was also forced into submissive behaviours that others read as feminine to avoid unwanted (aka ANY) attention. Over the past 7 years, I’ve had to unlearn them and stop being so terrified of standing out. I feel like a huge part of my transition, the biggest changes, have been in terms of confidence, and overcoming this terrible fear of being a “freak” and harassed if I was recognized publicly as male.
It is still a huge issue for me. Sometimes my anxiety still keeps me from doing things I need to, but I think I’m a lot healthier now in terms of it.
You know that feeling when you have a cold and a whole bunch of shit is just stuck in your chest and everytime you cough it feels like you inhaled a box of rusty nails?
This is another good caricature of a hyena.
Source: sasaphrenic
I like that these are toony hyenas that actually look like hyenas, and not like wolves with mohawks.
Source: bughousechess
Genderqueer Links and Books
gqid:
Genderqueer Links and Books
The following are link and book recommendations, all evaluated myself, as helpful resources that relate to genderqueer and non-binary concepts and identities. If there is a resource you would like to suggest, please use the GQID submit form (select Submit a Link from the drop-down or copy and paste a list into the default text box). See also Marilyn Roxie’s genderqueer tag on Delicious. If you are instead looking for the bibliography for the Genderqueer History and Identities project, click here.
Links:
Genderqueer-friendly Tumblrs
Androgynites Unite, Anything But Binary, Ask a Non-Binary, Break the Binary, LGBTQ Advice, Fat Genderqueers!, Fuck Yeah Androgyny!, Fuck Yeah Bigender!, Fuck Yeah Genderless, Fuck Yeah Gender Studies!, Fuck Yeah, Genderqueers!, Fuck Yeah, Transitioning GQs, the gender bender agenda, The Gender Book, Genderforkr, GenderPanic, Gender Queeries, Genderqueer, The Genderqueer Activist, GenderQueer Confessions, Genderqueer Fashionista, Genderqueer Problems, GQ Moments, KNOW Homo, LGBTQ Connections, Neutrois, Nonbinary, Non-binary Artists, Nonbinary Autistics!, Non Binary Confessions, Non-Binary Folk, Non-Op, no gender rules, nullgrade, Practical Androgyny, Queer Dictionary, Smashing the Binary, spectrumofgenders, STFU Binarists, T.R.A.N.S., Transcending Anatomy, Trans*Opinions, Trans* Transgressions, Trans* Tumblr Directory, transbears, TransFess, TRANSPRIDE, ygender[queer]
GQ-friendly Livejournal Communities
Androgynes, Bigender, Birls, Gender Blur, gender_fluid, Genderqueer, Gender.queer_FTW, Girlfags and Guydykes, Transgender
Websites and FAQs
Androgyny Rarely Asked Questions, Chroanagram, Crossdreamers, Genderfork, Genderology, Genderpedia, Genderqueer in the UK, GenderQueer Revolution, Gender Sphere, The Midwest Trans & Queer Wellness Initiative, Nonbinary.org, Non-Op: Another Option, pipisafoat: FAQ on Genderqueers, Gender Expression, and Gender Variance, Practical Androgyny, Questioning Transphobia, T-Vox, We Happy Trans, World Professional Association for Transgender Health, YGender
Organizations and Events: Click here for a list
Forums and Groups
AVEN: Gender Discussion, Forum GenderQueer (Russian), Last.fm: Genderqueers Group, Laura’s Playground, Scarleteen: Gender Issues, Susan’s Place, TransYada, What is Gender?
Identity Sites
Androgyne Online, Bigender, Bi-Gender the Bisexual Partner, GirlFags, Neutrois.com/Neutrois Outpost, Neutrois Nonsense
Prounouns and Titles
Art of Transliness: Gender Neutral Relational Terms, Freelance Writing: The History of the Indefinite Singular Pronoun, Gender Neutral Pronoun Blog, Gender Queeries: Gender Neutral/Queer Titles, Genderqueer in the UK: Misc, or Mx: A Gender-neutral Title, MIT’s Ally Toolkit: Gender Neutral Pronoun Usage, Warren Wilson: Using Gender-Neutral Language in Academic Writing
Articles: Click here for a list
Fun, Videos, Podcasts, & Performance
Agender Earthworm, Facts About Queers (Humor), Fuck Yeah Non-Binary Seahorse, Genderqueer Chat, Gendercast: Our Transmasculine Genderqueery, Gender Queeries,Kreative Korporation: Yay genderform! (a comprehensive and fun-to-play-with list of gender, sex, orientation, and more identities), Midwest Genderqueer, regender: A Different Kind of Translator, Trans Parrotfish, Trans Parrotfish’s Significant Other
Education
Gender Diversity Project, Gender Spectrum: Resources, Queer Teaching Tips, Safe Schools Coalition, TRANScending Identities: A Bibliography of Resources on Transgender and Intersex Topics, Transgender Student Rights, Trans What?: A Guide Towards Allyship
Sex Ed: Click here for a list
The Trevor Project: “The leading national organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services” to LGBT youth: 866-4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386) Also available for matters of less pressing urgency, Dear Trevor is an “online, non-time sensitive Question & Answer resource for young people with questions surrounding sexual orientation and gender identity.” A directory of previous questions in the category of Transgender/Genderqueer is also available.
Social Media
Fashion and Transitional Gear: Click here for a list
Banner: This Journal is Gay/Lesbian, Bisexual, Pansexual, Transgender, Intersex, Genderqueer, Asexual Positive banner (with flags; without flags). Designed by nethdugan.
Books:
Note: Use Worldcat.org, the world’s largest global library catalog, to see if the book you’re seeking is available at a library near you!
Gender Now Coloring Book - Maya Christina Gonzales
Gender Outlaw: On Men, Women and the Rest of Us - Kate Bornstein
Gender Outlaws: The Next Generation - Kate Bornstein
Hello, Cruel World: 101 Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws - Kate Bornstein
My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely - Kate Bornstein
Books and essays by Ivan Coyote
Grrl Alex: A Personal Journey to a Transgender Identity - Alex Drummond
GenderQueer: Voices From Beyond the Sexual Binary - Joan Nestle, Riki Wilchins, Clare Howell
Nobody Passes: Rejecting the Rules of Gender and Conformity - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality - Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel
Queer Theory, Gender Theory - Riki Anne Wilchins
Read My Lips: Sexual Subversion and the End of Gender - Riki Anne Wilchins
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves (in-progress) - Laura Erickson-Schroth
whatever.odt (free!) - JD O’Meara
Feeling Wrong in Your Own Body: Understanding What It Means to Be Transgender - Jamie A. Seba
That’s Revolting!: Queer Strategies for Resisting Assimilation - Mattilda Bernstein Sycamore
Transgender Voices: Beyond Women and Men - Lori B. Girshick and Jamison Green
Transition and Beyond: Observations on Gender Identity - Reid Vanderburgh
(Looking for a list of books concerning gender, sex, and orientation that aren’t genderqueer specific instead? Click here)
Book lists compiled by others:
Bibliography of Books Concerning Androgynes and Androgyny
I’ve updated this yet again on site and used the reblog post format that subtlecluster had put up to share it - keep sharing and suggesting more resources that I should include!
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Source: genderqueerid.com
If you’re more offended by “die cis scum” than by people dying and being constantly abused, harassed, and threatened for simply existing, then you are no ally. Learn that cis does not automatically equal “cis scum.”
Source: dearcispeople
I'm a nerdy little man. My Tumble-thingy is a mix of ranting about trans and adoption issues, reblogging stuff about racism and sexism, personal bullshit, and drawings.
